What’s in your kit
Eight tools. The first three are the rules you must know cold — they decide when something is an emergency. The rest keep the daily partnership steady and tell you where your role begins and ends.
1 · The Suicide Risk Rule
Know this coldDepression can become a medical emergency when you are thinking about suicide. Asking about it doesn't plant the idea — not asking misses the chance to help.
DEPRESSION SUICIDE RISK RULE
Patient card2 · The Antidepressant Continuity Rule
Know this coldDepression medicines take 4-6 weeks to work and need to be continued for months after symptoms improve. Stopping too early is the #1 cause of relapse.
DEPRESSION MEDICINE RULE
Patient card3 · Other Red Flags — Emergencies
Know this coldBeyond the two red rules above, these situations also mean immediate help. When in doubt, the home care plan handles ordinary days — these are not ordinary.
🔥 Suicidal thoughts with plan
Active suicidal thoughts with a plan or means is an immediate emergency.
Call 911 now💣 Severe agitation
Severe agitation, restlessness — can be a sign of mixed depression, mania, or akathisia from medicine. Call team or ED.
ED today🍺 Acute alcohol / substance crisis
Heavy use, suspected overdose, severe withdrawal — medical emergency.
Call 911 now😭 Catatonia
Patient cannot move, doesn’t respond, doesn’t eat — rare but real in severe depression. ED.
Call 911 now4 · The Contact Ladder
Fill in & printWhen something is wrong, you should not be deciding who to call in the moment — only which rung you are on. Fill in the names and numbers now, while things are calm.
You's depression / wellness plan
Daily medicine, sleep, exercise, therapy sessions, crisis plan with warning signs.
Action plan kept: ________________________Therapist / psychiatrist
For medicine adjustments, therapy sessions, new symptoms. Many therapists have crisis lines.
Specialty team: ________________________Primary care provider
For initial depression treatment, medicine refills, comorbidities. PCPs handle most depression well.
Primary care: ________________________988 / Emergency Department
988 for crisis hotline; ED for active suicidal plan, severe psychiatric crisis.
Preferred ED: ________________________5 · Daily Mood Check
Tap to logRate mood 0-10 (10 = best). Brief daily check helps spot trends and warning signs.
Patterns matter more than any single day. Trend down for 2+ weeks = call team. Bring to therapy visits.
6 · Depression Medicine Support
Daily routineSSRIs (sertraline, escitalopram, fluoxetine), SNRIs (venlafaxine, duloxetine), bupropion, mirtazapine, others. Therapy + medicine + lifestyle together is most effective.
Take consistently
Daily, same time. Pair with breakfast or brushing teeth. A pillbox helps when there are multiple medicines.
Watch side effects
Most side effects fade in 2-4 weeks. If severe or persistent — call team to switch, not stop.
No alcohol
Alcohol is a depressant. It interacts with depression medicines AND worsens depression. Discuss honestly with the team.
Therapy matters
Medicine alone often isn’t enough. CBT, IPT, DBT — different types fit different needs. Push for therapy access.
7 · The ER Go-Bag
Pack once, check monthlyA crisis is not the time to gather paperwork. Pack a go-bag now and keep it by the door. Tap each item as you add it — your checklist saves on this device.
8 · Speak Up / Trust the Team Guide
You boundaryThe hardest skill in patienting is knowing when to act and when to hold back. A great patient is a reliable backup and a fierce advocate — without taking your own care away from them.
💬 Speak up when…
- A red-flag rule is met and a clinician is dismissing it — restate the rule and the home plan calmly and clearly.
- You are in the ED and your home plan is being ignored — ask for it to be looked at, and ask for a senior clinician if needed.
- You are about to be given a medicine or test that wasn’t in the plan — ask why, and ask about alternatives.
- Your symptoms are escalating between visits — call before it becomes an ER trip.
- You feel unheard or rushed — it’s OK to say "I need a minute to ask one more question."
🤝 Trust the team when…
- They have proposed a guideline-based treatment that fits your plan.
- You disagree from fear rather than from new information — pause, ask one question, listen.
- You are on a stable run that’s working — small adjustments often beat big changes.
- Your care partner’s instinct and the team’s recommendation agree — that’s a strong signal.
- You’ve done your part of the homework — logs, questions, honest history — and now it’s the team’s turn.